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The Collaborative Process
My favorite alternative to a litigated divorce is use of the Collaborative model for
divorce. In the Collaborative Process, divorcing couples are aided by a collaborative team made up of divorce
specialists in the legal, psychological and financial fields – all needed in a divorce. Lawyers work
together. Coaches facilitate the emotional rough waters. Financials help add up the
numbers for the future so a long term approach can be viewed. Together the collaborative team works openly
in an atmosphere of trust and transparency to help the divorcing couple design a divorce agreement that is molded to their
particular needs. The children are included and are seen by a child specialist who helps the coaches with
the coparenting plan. The parents get to decide the best sharing schedule for their family needs.
I love training professionals who want to become collaboratively trained.
Inherent in this process are professionals who are thinking of the children first. They
know a litigated divorce is detrimental to the future welfare of the family and have chosen a practice consistent with the
health and well being of the children. A plethora of new scientific
data about our brains tells us that a transformative approach to a life transition increases the healthy and feel-good neurotransmitters
and decreases the detrimental and destructive neurotransmitters. Otherwise the acidic stress of the divorce
process makes us and our children sick. We choose health. We want our children healthy.
Embrace a process which is humanistic and caring which does not lead to sickness but to well-being and hope.
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